Finding Contentment in a Culture of Comparison


I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Kay Wills Wyma.  She is the author of I’m Happy for You (Sort of…Not Really!)  Being a MOAT (mother of adolescents and teenagers) Kay started her blogging journey to help parents deal with entitlement when raising their kids.

When I had a chance to read the book it was like Kay wrote the book specifically for me!  Since so much of my work is engulfed with being on social media so much, it’s so easy to get caught up in comparing myself.  There have been days when I’m like “Why did that person get the campaign” or “Why don’t my kids excel at sports like their kids”…blah blah blah.  Just a bunch of negative self-talk.

We laughed and talked about some of the funny stories that she shared in her book and I admitted how one can get so caught up with comparing themselves since social media is so in our faces now.  Kay said “Catch yourself in the moment.  Don’t get caught up in comparison.  Be inspired!  Step outside the moment and realize how amazing things are.  Remember we don’t know what all is going on in someone’s life.”

So many times we get caught up with trying to keep up with the Jones’.  Who has the biggest house, the best car, kids going to the best school…the list just goes on and on.  I sometimes have to stop myself, take a step back and remember that I can’t base my happiness or others by snippets of pictures that they share on social media.  No one typically shares the bad stuff on social media so we just see a glimpse of the filtered life that people lead.  And sometimes I’ve had to remind myself that envy is not good and can consume you and make you feel like you’re not good enough.

The book also touches on issues and how to find contentment with who we are and I can say for myself it’s such a wonderful feeling when I let go of comparing myself to others.  The following quote from the book is something that really hit home for me and was almost like a lightbulb moment for me:  “Contentment comes when we choose to see the immeasurable, incomparable beauty of each human, including the one in the mirror”.

Now when I tell someone that I’m happy for them, I’m truly happy for them!  I don’t use those words lightly and realize how amazing people feel when share in their joy and really mean it.  When doubt and envy try to rear its ugly head I usually try to recite a few positive sayings to keep me on track.  One of my favorites is “There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy.”  – Lope de Vega

If you would like to get your own copy of the book you can find it on Amazon.  Kay also wrote another book called Cleaning House and she has been featured on and written for several media outlets.  A few of those are CNN and The TODAY Show.  She currently resides in Dallas with her husband and 5 children.

*I was provided with a copy of the book for review.  All opinion expressed are my own.*



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World Vitiligo Day June 25th


A year ago if you asked me about vitiligo I would have just dismissed it as “the condition that MJ had”.  But fast forward to today and it’s now a part of our life.  A year ago my youngest daughter, Morgan, started developing a few white spots.  (Check out the post HERE)  Within a matter of months those spots began to spread  and before the end of the summer her knees, feet, elbows were completely white and several large spots on her face.

World Vitiligo Day is an annual day specially dedicated to people with vitiligo. Conceived by patients for patients, World Vitiligo Day is a truly global event that aims to increase awareness of vitiligo and raise funds needed for research and education.

The idea of a World Vitiligo Day was first put forward by Steve Haragadon, the founder of the Vitiligo Friends network from USA and then later developed and finalized by Ogo Maduewesi, a vitiligo patient who is the Founder and Executive Director of the Vitiligo Support and Awareness Foundation (VITSAF) in Nigeria. In early 2012, the VR Foundation has launched the 25June campaign and the dedicated website. Read full story on Wikipedia »

Over this last year I’ve done a lot of reasearch and discovered that there is so much that is unknown about vitiligo.  We met with a dermatologist and he prescribed a cream which did absolutely nothing.  And what was worse is that he was pretty nonchalant and didn’t really have any suggestions on how to even keep her skin protected.  It wasn’t until I started to reach out to the vitiligo community did I get a better grasp of this condition.

I’ve been blessed to learn so much from others about how to help my daughter deal with her changes and how important it is to use sunscreen.  I met Lorena of Just My Vitiligo on instagram and she’s been so nice at helping give me tips and encouragement for my daughter.  I also came across this clip from the show “What Would You Do?”

What would you have done if you were there?  The sad part about this video is that there are so many people who actually feel this way.  I’ve even had people ask me if my daughter’s vitiligo is because she’s biracial…smh!

I’m just glad that Morgan is happy and healthy and that’s what we’ll be celebrating today!


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Flameless LED Candle Tea Lights Giveaway

*I was provided with the product for review.  All opinions expressed are my own.*
If you’re like me then you probably have a ton of candles around your house.  There is something so soothing and relaxing about the flicker that the flame gives off.  But on the flip side that flame can also cause problems if you have small children or animals in your home.  Flameless Candles are such a cool way to get that effect but without the risk.  No scarier feeling than leaving the house and wondering “Did I blow the candle out before I left?”  I’ve done that on more than one occasion and luckily each time I did it I had only left the house for a small amount of time.
For review I was sent a set of LED Candle Tea Lights along with pink and red faux rose petals.  There is nothing I LOVE more than taking a nice warm bath with the lights dimmed and candles to help me relax.  Luckily for me I had the house all to myself so I decided to have a little me time and poured a nice big glass of wine and then placed the candles around the tub.  It was so nice to relax and not worry about wax getting all over the place or water from the tub putting out flames.
MARS flameless candles
MARS flameless candles
MARS flameless candles
Now for the best part…one of you will be lucky enough to win your own set!  If you win I’d love to know how you would use them.  Just leave a comment below!
LED Candle Lights Giveaway
Open US- 18+ 
Starts June 7th 2015
Ends June 21, 21015 at 12:00 am/est
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